Mx Bliss (she/they) is a joyful sadomasochist, sensation empath, consent enthusiast, rope switch, self suspender, and lifestyle quinkster (queer kinkster). Bliss is having the time of their life discovering all the ways to connect with BDSM and rope and is eager to share the joy. They co-facilitate AlternaRope, a celebration of diversity in rope and co-hosts the Friction pop-up events. She also produces the Jiffy Kink events. Both in vanilla and kink worlds, MxBliss frequently presents on negotiation, consent, and diversity/equity/inclusion.
Fit to be tied: the art of finding, vetting, and negotiating with your rope Top(s)
This is a class for people new to rope bottoming, looking to get tied for the first time, or have been enjoying rope for years but are looking for more consistent positive bottoming experiences. MxBliss will walk through the life cycle of 1) finding safer rope Tops, 2) vetting and rigger due diligence, 3) making the ask, 4) negotiating a rope scene, and 5) creating mutually satisfying rope relationships. We will also discuss what to do when things go wrong. Using Mx Bliss’s Rope Negotiation framework as the cornerstone, we will discuss how you can be a more empowered rope bottom and ask for what you want/need in rope. And as an added feature, we will go over basic rope bottoming safety tips and self-check practices so you can better protect yourself (and your rope Top).
Trauma-Informed Kink (with Maeve)
Whether intervening in the dungeon, seeing your friend in shock after a scene gone bad, taking a call from your partner after they have been sexually assaulted, or supporting a friend in a messy D/s breakup, it is not uncommon to see kinksters harmed or hurt (nonconsensually) in kink. The purpose of this class is to provide attendees with tools to assist and support people who are in a state of trauma and is especially helpful for people who serve as kink “first responders” (like DMs).
We’ll start with a basic explanation of what ‘trauma-informed intervention’ is and why it’s especially important for kinksters. Then we will go over some basic ways to identify what trauma or dysregulation looks like in the context of BDSM including how to distinguish ‘subspace’ from states of shock. Then through scenarios/hypotheticals, we will share some examples of when such issues may arise and methods to support people who have been harmed in ways that minimize the likelihood of deepening wounds, ascertaining information so you can serve as an effective first responder, and how to show up as a supportive friend/partner. We will also cover how to recognize trauma/dysregulated states in oneself and provide self soothing tips so that you can more effectively seek/find safety and support. We will end the session in smaller group breakouts so that you can form hypothetical support squads and practice the skills.