Beginners R Us 2019

RACK Me Up: Risk awareness for bottomsStephano & Shay

Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is outpacing Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) as a model for What It Is That We Do (WIITWD)- and soon acronyms may take over BDSM completely! While there’s a lot of lip service paid to the concept, are we really practicing RACK? We spend a lot of time talking about the “consent” part (rightfully), and “kink” is pretty much a given. However, “risk awareness” is often assumed. Bottoms, it’s your body on the line here- do you really know the dangers (and safer practices) for practices like flogging, bondage, play piercing, and breath control? Stefanos & Shay will start this session with a self-assessment that includes questions about many different types of play, and use this as an outline to discuss risk awareness, from specific health considerations to heavy impact to cutting to suspension (including demos designed to enhance your ability to assess your top’s safety and expertise with different types of play). Rather than promoting “one true way,” they will encourage you to develop your individual risk tolerance profile. Tops are also welcome to attend, as this session may enhance your pre-scene communication and ability to “RACK up” your bottoms. (This class is demo, lecture, and discussion.)

We encourage you to read the multiple choice outline ahead of time- it can be found here!

Whip Workshop:  Experience Passion, Joy, Fear and Healing – Daddy Crone

Everyone knows a whip when they hear one. Some people are terrified by them, others get a little excited.  This class is designed for both extremes and everything in between. We will discuss and demonstrate techniques, style, safety and above all connecting with your partner. It is intended to be more of a guided exchange of energy.  A journey through the pleasure and pain that is so unique to the whip.

Come learn the dance and flow that is possible. Learn to create more depth/connection and tap into your passion.  Whether a Top or bottom, this starts with a willingness to be present. We will be guiding those who wish to throw the whip plus assisting bottoms work through their resistance to receiving the whip, creating an opportunity to reshape negative experiences into a re-opening/positive experience and connection to your passion.

This workshop will leave you with solid skills, power exchange energy awareness, and an undying love for the whip.  Although this class is participation based, the dance is mesmerizing to watch and an altering experience for everyone.  It is so much more than technique.

Participation will be welcomed and encouraged.  If you own whips, bring them. Let’s Dance!

Navigating Open Relationships – Marcia Baczynski

Opening up any relationship takes skill, patience, and perseverance. Mistakes will be made. But why make any more than you have to?

This fun, enlightening workshop is devoted specifically to folks who are charting new territories in their relationships. In this interactive, revealing workshop, you will learn about the 4 monogamies, the most common pitfalls of open relationships (and how to avoid them), 5 things that will help you survive any open exploration, the key to turning jealousy into a blessing and the different styles of ethical non-monogamy (and how to tell which one is right for you).

“Fuck Yes!” Clear Communication in the Bedroom – Marcia Baczynski

In this workshop, we unravel and discuss the murky and mysterious issues around desire and communication, including:

Why we don’t ask & what we do instead
Desire smuggling (what it is and why it matters)
Why “Is this okay?” is NOT the question to ask (and what to ask instead)
Why “Do you want to ___?” is only 1/4 of the equation of asking
How to make room for fun experimentation in bed
And lots more!

Using real-world examples and interactive Q&A from the class, you will learn practical and immediately-useful tools to help you and your partner find your way to “FUCK YES!”

Get Your Flirt On – Marcia Baczynski

Festivals are an opportunity to play, as adults. But new people and situations can get you into your head. So how do you get out of it and into connecting with other people? Can you still flirt if you’re feeling awkward? How do you shake off your everyday constraints and get into your sexy space? In this lighthearted event, we’ll play a bunch of fun games to find your inner flirt, access your curiosity, initiate scenes and embrace your playfulness for more fun event experience and sexy connections.

The Wonderful World of Wax – Lady Pandora

Ever wonder what dripping hot wax would feel like on your skin or being the holder of the candle while it drips onto your squirming bottoms bits?

Come join Lady Pandora and her slave William to learn all there is about wax. We will discuss types of wax, safety, and various methods to apply this lovely hot delicious substance to any part of the body! We will explore everything from artistic wax, to the pour, the drip and William’s favourite, the squirt!

How Not to Negotiate – Xanthine

Negotiation is a necessary part of play and….zzzzzzzz……Yeah, it’s usually boring.  And often ineffective. It can put the responsibility for thinking of every contingency in the hands of the bottom, who doesn’t want it, and takes the creativity and sensuality of the top and turns it into a predictable list, while still leaving the important details open to fracturing.

Learn how we make decisions and why, and how that can help you turn pre-scene negotiation banter into tactical foreplay.

Pillars of Consent: A Best Practices Approach – Victor

Expanding on FRIES, this VOICES model of consent encourages nuance and measured risk.  It moves away from binary ideas on consent and towards risk assessment. This class isn’t a boring lecture about what not to do.  This class is about rethinking consent as a Best Practices approach – that some practices are inherently safer than others. Finally, Victor will outline some of the key principles of consent (Pillars) and discuss how invisible power dynamics undermine consent or accidentally coerce participation.

Be a Cunning Linguist & the Art of Pussy Pleasing – Marla Renee Stewart

Do you think you know all the tricks of the trade when it comes to pussy pleasing? Are you someone who just wants to learn some fancy new techniques? Or are you just orally challenged? Any way you look at it, there’s always something to learn when it comes to pleasing the vulva. Whether it’s with your long-term partner or brief lover or somebody in-between, you can use these step-by-step techniques to earn your lover’s admirability.

Pursuing Unicorns, Threesomes, and More – Marla Renee Stewart

Unicorns are becoming increasingly popular – not only because of their rarity, but because of their ability to feed off the love of a loving couple. Searching for a unicorn can be very exciting for some couples, but sometimes the search grows weary if you aren’t able to “seal the deal.” In this workshop, we will show you how to allure unicorns by using cautious flirting and sexual negotiations that aim to please both parties. Avoid being a unicorn hunter and become just the right glitter to attract your perfect unicorn.